Dr. Michelle Dexter
Sexologist ~ Integrative Psychologist ~ Professor
What is Healthy Sexuality?
A lot of people wonder about this, and I did too, so I did some research. I interviewed 10 adults (5 women and 5 men) of all sexual preferences/orientations and walks of life about their views on healthy sexuality. Here’s what I found:
It’s creative rather than destructive
It’s self-affirming, life-affirming, and spirit-affirming
It’s honoring of self and others
It’s honest and disclosing, not dishonest or secretive
It allows for the consumption of pornography or other commercial sexual practices, as long as it’s done with consent and not to excess
It cares for the body, the mind, the emotions, and the spirit
And best of all, it’s fun!
In short, healthy sexuality means that you are enjoying your body and the pleasure it can give you, you are enjoying your sexual relationship(s), and you are feeling good about your sexual practices. The good news is that if you are finding yourself in situations where you want to make your sexuality healthier, advances in science, namely Integrative Psychology and Bioenergetics, are wonderfully effective tools to do such.
A lot of people struggle with wanting to have romantic and sexual partners and not being able to find them, or they’re stuck in patterns of unhealthy relationships, or they suffer with sexual functioning challenges. Integrative Psychology and Bioenergetics (or Biofield Therapies), are designed to determine what is going on in the body, the mind, and the spirit, and to treat the whole person. If the body is out of balance, corrections in diet or environment can be implemented. If the mind is wreaking havoc in a person’s life (and this is common, as it is well known in psychology that approximately 90% of the mind is unconscious, and therefore 90% of our thoughts, decisions, motivations, beliefs, and behaviors are out of our conscious control, and may be the root of our dissatisfaction), mental programs and emotions can be balanced and changed to be in line with a person’s desired life. Finally, if a person is seeking deeper connection or more meaning, spiritual or existential exercises can be employed to elicit more satisfaction. The beauty of integrative work is that it simultaneously works on the body, mind, and spirit. This method is otherwise known as Healing From the Body Level Up (HBLU), and has been shown to be highly effective.
I have a 100% success rate in treating sexual functioning challenges, in that every person I’ve treated has shown significant improvement. If you would like to learn more about these cutting edge and highly effective tools, read on.
The Healthy Sexuality Program
The Healthy Sexuality Program is for anyone who wants to enjoy happy, healthy sexuality and sexual expression.
The Healthy Sexuality Program comes in two forms:
Sexual Soothing is a one hour session in which you share your issues and concerns, we discuss your ideal outcomes, and I offer my insights and suggestions for how to achieve those outcomes.
Sexual Sustenance is a three month (12 session) program in which we address your issues and concerns systemically and holistically.
Our first meeting will be a one hour intake session where we get to know each other better where we discuss your significant life events, health or body issues you may have, your mental and emotional states, your significant relationships, and your spirituality/finding meaning in life needs.
We will discuss your sexuality, including your sexual history, your sexual preferences, and any sexual trouble spots. We will conclude with discussing what your ideal life would look like in order to create your personal goals for our work together.
Our sessions will be personalized and tailored to you. We will identify any impediments that are preventing you from achieving your goals, and we will systematically fix every one of them. This may involve transforming limiting beliefs into affirming ones, or healing traumatic situations in your past, releasing negative emotions, or releasing unconscious self sabotage patterns. In any case, Dr. Dexter's approach is gentle but direct.
At the conclusion of each session, you may be given a personalized treatment plan to include recommendations for vitamins, supplements, herbs, and/or homeopathic remedies. You may also be given homework assignments of reading books, watching videos, yoga, meditation, relaxation exercises, or other specific tasks. Your homework will be uniquely tailored to your needs.
The Healthy Sexuality Program does not involve any nudity or sexual contact between us. You may be given sexual homework assignments to complete in the privacy of your home, however.
Issues The Healthy Sexuality Program Addresses:
Low or no sexual desire
Lack of sexual arousal
Lack of orgasm
Pain during sex
Sex at menopause
Sex at andropause (“male menopause”)
Sex and aging
Male and female sexual anatomy
Sexual health, including breast health and genital health
Coping with chronic health problems’ impact on your sex life
Sex after surgery
Contraception/birth control options
Dating and relationships
Communicating about sex with your partner and/or with your children
Sexually Transmitted Diseases/Infections (STDs/STIs)
Stale sex life
Accepting your body
Sexual guilt and shame